I saw this video today on Facebook, and it's really on my heart to write about it. I think I remember seeing this or something similar a few years ago, so this might have been around for a while, but I want to talk about it a little bit. Watching this made me feel so sad and a little sick. It really puts into perspective the impossible expectation that the media puts on women to look a certain way. I think that this is so important for everyone to watch, because it shows us that the standard of beauty that our society has is impossible to attain.
I hear so many women calling themselves ugly and fat, and it breaks my heart every time I hear it. I work at a bridal shop selling wedding dresses, and this is pretty much what I hear all day. I will help a bride try on numerous dresses until we find the one that's perfect for her, and even when she looks absolutely gorgeous, she will say something like, "I'm so fat, this dress will look better if I lose 20 pounds." And I'm like "Are you kidding? You look perfect."
I understand this desire to look perfect, I think every girl does. I think that the first time I thought about my weight in a negative way was when I was in the 5th grade. At 10 years old I didn't want to wear shorts to school because I thought my legs were fat. As I got older, this feeling of inadequacy and never being pretty or thin enough got worse, and while I think I'm in a better place now, I still struggle with these feelings sometimes. I think it's made worse when I am consuming too much media rather than focusing on God. I forget that my identity and value are in Christ and not in my outward appearance.
Don't get me wrong, I know that it is important to be healthy, and I understand that weight can be an issue that affects health. My concern is that we tie up our beauty and our self worth with our body image, which I don't think should be the case. If you want to lose weight for your health, awesome; I'm all for that. But I wish people's motivation would be that they want to make themselves healthier, not that they want to live up to this impossible standard of beauty. Whether you have a weight problem or not, you're still beautiful. Your weight shouldn't define your beauty.
I know that everything that I'm writing right now has probably been written before and that it's not particularly profound, but it is still very important to me. This is a topic that has been on my heart for quite a while, and I have been wondering what I can do to make a difference. I don't really have a solution, but I think that on an individual level, it is very important for us to stop expressing negative thoughts about ourselves to others, because that just reinforces our own negativity towards our bodies but I think it also rubs off on other women. If we want others to feel beautiful, we need to stop talking about how ugly and fat we feel. The attitude really just puts emphasis and importance on the wrong things, and this attitude is definitely something that I want to work on.